The following paper is in several parts. I will present this in chapters and the bibliograpy is at the end of every chapter.
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Death by any cause is not easy to face. Dying is the ending of life and is by every means sad, even though it may be an end to physical suffering. The sadness grief connected with death is inevitable and painful. The cause of death adds more elements to the grieving process. If these elements are not addressed, grieving cannot and will not be complete. Pastors and counselors must deal with the ignorance, fear, guilt, 0utrage, and ideas on how to deal with those who are dying. This is an overwhelming and frightening topic to deal with. However, as will seen latter, part of learning how to deal with grieve is learning to deal with the feelings of being overwhelming. “While there are no right ways to grieve, there are certain principles about how to “grieve well” (Froman 1992, 6) and suffer less in the process. Therefore, the idea here is to try to deal with the unique circumstances following death, and how this can complicate the grieving process. Understanding this is necessary for the person in this process to complete grieving without becoming victim. In this paper, the author will suggest ways to help someone who is grieving Words to use and words not to use in grieve .The author will suggest what needs to be said at the stage of dying.
Death comes suddenly headed on our way and there is not much can be done to stop it.
Human beings cannot dodge it, sidestep it, postpone it, but reluctantly recognize its inevitability. “Death always has been and always will be with us. It is an integral part of human’s existence. And because it is, it has to be always a subject of deep concern to all of us.” (Kubler-Ross 1975, 1). Why should there be concern about this topic? Elizabeth Kubler points out, “Since the dawn of humankind, the human mind has pondered death, searching for the answer for deaths mystery. The key to the question of death unlocks the door of life. Death should be viewed as the culmination of life, the graduation, the good- bye before another welcome” (1983, xvi).
It happens once, and there is no chance to try it again, to do it better the next time.What is death? Like birth, a once in a lifetime event, and everybody must be best prepare to face it. What to do to the grieving family and what is appropriate to say about death and dealing with death can feel suffocating. Relationship conflicts with family members often occur. There are side effects to grief that someone trying to help can look for and be sensitive to. The main task of the paper is to learn how to give the persons grieving the space. In this case individuals should be mindful of the response we make and the reaction to death both to the dying and the grieving. What is pastoral way in which pastors and counselors can help the dying and their families to deal with death has it comes.
Over two million individuals die in the United States each year. Estimates vary widely as to how many people are directly affected by these deaths, and it is even more difficult to estimate how many of these people will experience complicated bereavement. An important cause of needless suffering is the inadequacy of contemporary support in the move from home to hospital, and the personal bonds of family and other societal connections that formally served to support the grieving have eroded, due to factors such as geographic, mobility, and aged-segregated living arrangements. Too many people today grieve alone, and this isolation intensifies their fears about the loneliness of their own deaths. Some particular communities, moreover, have experienced so many deaths that need for sustained support in bereavement is increased accordingly. The goal of this paper is to enhance the capacity of individuals and communities to grieve and to support one another in the experience of grief (website- Americans for Better Care of the Dying).